Procrastination is the practice of carrying out less urgent tasks in preference to more urgent ones, or doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, and thus putting off impending tasks to a later time, sometimes to the “last minute” before the deadline.
With the modern emphasis on YOLO (you only live once) it seems that we use that as a ready reason why we don’t do unpleasant or boring things….
I seem to have been a procrastinator all my life – probably starting when I was a student. Not being organised could be a reason – but I can be extremely organised when under pressure! I do lots of work for Clubs and manage to keep a lot of balls in the air…so lack of organisation cant be the only reason… I think it is because I am an overthinker. In an effort to decrease my anxiety levels I tend to think and plan about what I need to do – and then not leave myself enough time to actually follow thru on my plans. Afterall when you are planning something in your head (even if you have planned for every possible complication) it still seems to be quicker or easier to do in your head than in real life. Even when you think you have allowed plenty of time you never do!
Having searched the internet for definitions and research on procrastination I find there is plenty of info out there…
Academics tell us that procrastination can be caused by a fear of success or failure….. not sure how that works. These same academics also say that it is more prevalent in students than the general population… they clearly have not surveyed many of my families and friends….
There is lots of interesting research about the reason why procrastinate, how we procrastinate and how to stop you procrastinating. I guess I will read it all later….
I guess the most important thing to realise is that most of us do procrastinate about something in our lives. And that we are not lazy.
So that makes me feel better… better get back to tidying up the desk… but I will just catch up on Facebook first….
I don’t consider myself a real hoarder with a house full of clutter… I watch the Buried Alive programs and feel quite good about the amount of stuff I have… mine is all useful? Right?
I just find it hard to throw out perfectly good things – like shoe boxes… they are always such a useful size and made out of good strong cardboard…. great for storing stuff in… But even I had to admit that 20 or so shoe boxes saved over many years was not practical considering I probably only find uses for one or two over a year! I regretfully threw them all in the bin…well most of them…there was one particularly strong box I am sure I can find a use for sometime….
It made me wonder about why we keep this stuff…. and why do some people like me keep it for far longer than they need to – and others have no qualms about tossing it out immediately? I look towards my parents…. both hard working farming folk. They don’t seem to possess that gene of “keeping just in case”! And they lived thru the depression and rationing during the war. They displayed practical hoarding… like darning the socks until they were being darned on top of darns, or cutting bed sheets down the middle (which had become thinner due to years of use) and turning the ends into the middle so they could be used for several more years… They didnt keep useless things just in case they were needed….
I look to my children… the oldest is a hoarder like me… tends to have a lot of clutter and keeps stuff (mainly at my house! lol) in case she can use it in the future. My son is far more practical… and hates clutter. I told him I had kept a box of precious things from his school days (you know – his first finger painting, clay hand models…). I was shocked when he said why would he want those and he would just chuck them out!So I can see that box will have to stay here as I am sure one day he will be glad I kept them…. wont he??
So do we tend to keep more stuff because we have more to keep? It certainly isnt because I went thru hard times like my parents. I admire people that are organised and have a place for everything and everything in a place. I wish I had a tidy house and could lay my hands on something I am looking for straight away…. but I think at this stage in my life I wont change…all I can do is try and recognise that I need to declutter and be more diligent about not keeping stuff I dont need or wont use….
Decided to tackle the table in my sept room that I dumped all my bits and bobs from my august room!! Lol covered with computer cables etc so got sidetracked sorting thru 2 boxes of computer and tv cables, charges etc. decided to throw most of them out as I have no idea what they are for!! Lol so the table isn’t mich tidier yet but I have got rid of two boxes of junk. This is the box of stuff going in the bin!!
This sounds like me going thru my Family History stuff – or the boxes of the kids school stuff that I have kept!! lol
When surrounded by a lot of clutter – either in my life or my house – I am always reminded of the little saying –
How do you eat an Elephant?
One Bite at a Time!!
Using this simple philosophy of just tackling one small thing at a time has stopped me becoming overwhelmed by the number of things that need to be done!
This has been particularly useful recently when I decided I really needed to de-clutter my house… I decided to tackle one room a month and try and do even 10 minutes each day. At the end of the first month my first room was completed – and I was so proud of myself. I showed a couple of friends my before and after photos and they too were pretty impressed.
Several other friends confided that they too needed to sort out their houses so we set up a small Facebook group to encourage and support each other.. none of us were major “problem” hoarders but all of us did find it difficult to throw perfectly useful stuff out or organise the clutter we had so that we could find it when we wanted. Not to mention we all fantasized about a tidy house!!
We started off setting ourselves goals at the start of each month and to take before and after photos. We put no limit on how small the project for the month was – and that no matter how little we achieved it was always an achievement to be praised and encouraged.
To reduce our anxiety of getting rid of our clutter we try and reuse, recycle or repurpose the treasures we have accumulated.
So join us as we all try and make our life more organised!
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